Women usually have a plan for something that they 
really want and sometimes they don't even realize 
that they've made a plan because it's been something 
that they do naturally and have been doing it for so long,
that they don't feel the need to have it written out.

Sometimes I think that as little girls we have this natural
ability to see what we want, figure out a way to get it
(a plan) and then go for it - no matter what.

Have you ever watched a little girl playing house, having
a tea party or doll dress up?  If you have, you probably
have witnessed that little girl in action: setting things up,
organizing everything and telling her playmates what to do
and, what not to do (some might call it being bossy).  I think it's pretty funny, her playmates are at her mercy.

Isn't that how it is as grown women, we continue that
same pattern just like when we were little.  The only difference
is that we have a lot more people that are in our life to organize (boss around).

Even though that might come easy and written plans are
not required, sometimes having a plan for something 
specific and more elaborate requires that it be written 
out on paper in order for it to be accomplished.

For example, these are some things that require you to have
a written plan. 

*Managing your finances

*Going to college - how much is it going to cost?

*Where you're going to live - how much can you afford to
  pay per month for rent or mortgage?

*Getting married

*Buying a car through financing

*Traveling - taking a trip to Italy

*Growing your spirituality

*Taking care of your health (yes, you need a plan for that!)

The list can be endless, everyone is so different in what they
want and how they want to live their life.

I want to say to all of you women out there, start making plans for your life that will get you excited.  Be a woman with a plan!

There's something amazing that happens when you actually write out or draw out what you want on paper.  
It's so different than keeping it all in your head or doing
it digitally.

I've witnessed some amazing things as I've taught students

how to get their ideas out of their head, how to use their imagination and creativity in all different ways, and all of
it was done with physical objects, not a computer.

My former students have experienced a great deal of satisfaction, amazement within themselves, a sense of accomplishment, and the confidence that they can do
things that may seem hard.

I have a fun suggestion - get some colored pens, pencils, paints
of some kind, crayons, oil pastels, or anything else that is colorful of your choice, and just start writing or drawing a plan for what
you want. You can choose whatever kind of paper you want.

This is your plan and you can create it any way you want!

Colors have a way of activating the imagination and creativity.  

Who says that a plan has to be on a plain sheet of paper, written with a black ink pen?

You're more likely to have success with your plan when it's on
paper versus it being stuck in your head.

Plan! (with colors) You will be happy that you did.  

If you need help with planning or creating a plan for something you have in your heart, let me know.  I will
be more than happy to help you.

I've witnessed some amazing things as I've taught students
how to get their ideas out of their head, how to use their imagination
and creativity in all different ways and all of it was done with
physical objects, not a computer.

My former students have experienced a great deal of satisfaction,
amazement within themselves, a sense of accomplishment and
the confidence that they can do things that may seem hard.

I have a fun suggestion - get some colored pens, pencils,
paints of some kind, crayons, oil pastels, or anything else that is
colorful of your choice, and just start writing or drawing a plan for
what you want. You can choose whatever kind of paper you want.
This is your plan and you can create it any way you want!

Colors have a way of activating the imagination and creativity.
Who says that a plan has to be on a plain sheet of paper, written
with a black ink pen?

You're more likely to have success with your plan when it's on paper versus it being stuck in your head.
Plan! (with colors) You will be happy that you did.

If you need help with planning or creating a plan for something you
have in your heart, let me know. I will be more than happy to help
you.

Please share this podcast with a friend or family member who you
think would get some value out of listening to the different episodes.
I really appreciate it, mahalo for doing that.

a huihou malama pono, which means - until next time, take care

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I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

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Aloha, Janin 

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production

I  share with you the10 questions you need to include in the conversation you have with yourself everyday.

The person we have a conversation with the most every single day is ourselves.

You may not have even realized it until now, but if you just take a moment to think about all the things that you think about every day of your life, you’ll come to realize that most of it were talking to yourself, also known as: conversations with yourself.

It’s pretty amazing when you think about it, that we have these conversations all day long and I wonder how in the world can we do that when we have so many things going on.

These conversations actually do one of two things: they either help us or hurt us.  And this is what I mean, it so easy for us to say negative things to ourselves when we feel like we’re not smart enough or when we compare ourselves to other people and much more.  By doing that and saying these negative things to ourselves, it really has such a hurtful effect on your mind, body and spirit.  

Now when on an occasion or two we say good things to ourselves, then it helps our happy hormones to feel good and leads us to feel happiness and joy.  That also makes our mind, body, and spirt happy too, and we want to feel happiness and joy right?

I would love for you to start having great conversations with yourself as soon as possible.  You’re definitely worth it and I hope that you know know that you’re worth it. 

I have a list of 10 questions that I put together for you to use everyday.

Start each day by reviewing all of these questions so that it can eventually become cemented in your mind, which will lead to you automatically asking yourself these questions on a daily basis.  
It’s a pretty neat thing to have that happen.

Many years ago I started to ask myself these questions and many more all the time.  It’s amazing what you start to realize when you do this every day.

These are the questions: 

 1.  How can I make it important to consider and honor my own needs? 

 2.  What is it going to take for me to start speaking the truth to myself, because truth is powerful?

 3.  How am I going to know of my self-worth which is priceless?

 4.  How can I let go of any fear that I have?

 5.  Do I have things that I doubt?  And if I do how do I let it go of that doubt?

 6.  How do I let go of any shame that I feel? 

 7.  What value do I bring to my life and to those that are in my life?

 8.  What is it going to take for me to feel joy every day?

 9.  Do I know that creativity is something that is already inside    
of me, not outside of me?

10. What do I need to do to be the creator of my success?

Now, you don’t have to ask yourself these questions in the order that I have them listed because it’s not the order in which you ask these questions, but it’s the nature of the questions themselves.

These are really powerful questions and to be asking yourself
about these

things will have such a powerful effect on you and your life.  I can promise you that.  I have done it myself for years and I can tell you that it has had such a great and powerful impact on me and how I live my life.  I know that I have become a much better person in how I do things, the way I live my life, and much more.  I’m not saying that I have it all figured out or I’m perfect because I don’t have it all figured out and I know I’m far from perfect.

I just feel better mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and I would love for you to feel all of that too.

Like I always say, write things down, get it out of your head and on to paper.

Writing things down has power.  It’s amazing what happens when you actually read your own writing.  As much as possible I recommend writing things down on paper with a writing instrument of some kind instead of typing it out on your phone or computer.

I invite you to try this out for 7 days and see how you feel after just
a week of asking yourself these powerful questions.  You will be glad you did.

Please send me an email at aloha@janinjohnston.com and let me know if you’ve tried this exercise and how it worked for you.  I
would really love to hear from you.  I welcome any questions that you might have as well.

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

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Aloha, Janin

a huihou malama pono, which means - until next time, take care

Have you ever had a time in your life where things were so
stressful and there was a lot going on?  Are you going through
it now?

Because life throws curve balls at you and you may not be
prepared or feel like you’re ready to take on those curve
balls, that you just feel like screaming or maybe even crying!

Curveballs a.k.a.: a flat tire or a car accident on the freeway
and now you’re going to be 30 minutes late to work or an
appointment, or as soon as you get to work you get a phone
call from your child’s school that he or she is feeling sick and
you need to pick him or her up as soon as possible, or you

get home from work and somebody in your family reminds you
that you signed up to bring snacks to a school or committee
meeting that night, or how about all of these things happening
in one day!

At this point you’re thinking no way…this cannot be happening!
And you start to wonder if you can make it through the rest of
the day.

This is just an example of a few of the many endless things
that have happened to me and many other people that I know.

I’m sure you can relate as you are reading this.

With life being so busy and moving fast, sometimes the only
thing you can do it make it through the day and not worry about
tomorrow or the future.

I want to let you know that you’re not alone, life likes to keep you
on your toes which at times can seem relentless.  It seems like the
light at the end of the tunnel is not even in your view or you don’t
even have the energy to dream of the light.

When these things are happening, have you ever had the thought
of “I just want to get on an airplane and fly off somewhere where
nobody can find me”.  Well, I have had that thought many, many
times.  Although it’s never happened…I’ve never gotten on an
airplane and flew off to somewhere far away when life was
throwing me curveballs.

It’s a great thought though, don’t you think?

Sometimes the frustration level is so high that you just feel like
you just can’t deal with all the stress that’s happening in one day.

Well, looking back at those times of dealing with the curveballs
I realize that on quite a few occasions, it was because of my
lack of planning and preparation.  Of course, I’m talking about things that I had control over, like having the snack ready ahead
of time and things like that.  Obviously, I have no control over a
flat tire, a car accident on the freeway or my child getting sick at school.

But I do have control over other little things that I can put in place
and prepare for.

Hindsight is always great because it means that you are willing
to see and learn from all the things that didn’t work in the past.
It’s also really important to realize that you can’t change the past.
It’s really easy to blame everyone and everything else instead of
just accepting what happened and realize that sometimes there’s
nothing that you can do or could have done in certain situations.

Women, in general, are so hard on themselves when things happen
and go in a direction that created pain or stress, that they start
saying things to themselves that are very emotionally, mentally, and
spiritually harmful.

There is nothing that is worth that kind of pain to your emotions, your mind, or your spirit.

It really is OK to want to just make it through the day and nothing
more.  Just remember to breathe…

If and when you have curveballs coming at you, just remember that
you are only going to be better for having gone through it.

Here are 4 things I suggest that you do:

1.  Set a specific day and time each week to go over your life and
what is going on during the coming week.

2.  Jot down on a paper calendar or your digital calendar, as many
notes as possible about what’s happening on each day and what
you need to do for each thing.

3.  Let everyone know that is involved in your activities.

4.  Look at your calendar multiple times a day.  You’ll be amazed
at how easy it is to forget what you put in the calendar.

It may sound a little too simple, but it really is powerful in helping
you deal with any curveballs.

Just trying to make it through the day is better than just giving up and throwing in the towel and not dealing with the curveballs in a positive way.

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Please share this podcast with anyone that you know of who will
benefit from the things that are in each episode, mahalo
for doing that.

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Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin 

a hui hou malama pono, which means - until next time, take care

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production

NEVER EVER go to the store without a shopping list of some kind,
whether it's written on paper or on your phone, and try to limit the
number of times you go to the store.  Here's why...

1.    As soon as you walk in the door you forget what you
needed to get in the first place.

2.    There's a whole marketing psychology on shoppers
that the stores use to make everything you see very
appealing and makes you want to buy it.
(I know because I used to work in retail)

So.... that leads me to the 3rd reason...

3.    You don't buy what you actually came to the store for.

4.    You end up buying things that you don't really need.

5.    You spend way more money than you can afford.  And,
a lot of times using credit to make the purchase!

Everything listed above is from experience.  So a few years ago what I decided to do was to make sure that before I went to any store that I would write down on a piece of paper the exact thing
or things that I needed.  I still do that to this day.  I make sure that
I write my list with a bright-colored pen making the words a little larger than usual - it's as if the bright words are reminding me of what I really need.

Now, I'm not perfect.  I have moments that I just feel like I don't want to write
a list and I go… and I shop … and I buy things that I don't really need.  But, I learn very quickly that I should have made a list!

If this happens to you, don't worry the main thing is that you
get back to doing the things that work, like writing a shopping
list on paper or in your phone - whichever works best for you.

Try it out this weekend and see what happens.  Better yet,
try it out for 7 days.

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Mahalo for listening.
Aloha, Janin 

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production

Aloha, in this episode I talk about shame.

I referenced episode #011 on Fear and episode #012 on Doubt.   

Fear, Doubt, and Shame are the three main things that women 

suffer from.

Shame is a painful emotion that we need to talk about, woman 

want to just hide it under the rug, but I don’t want that for you.  

We need to figure out how to get rid of these feelings that are 

not serving us.

There’s no room in our lives for fear, doubt, and shame.

Growing up, have you ever had an adult say to you “shame on you”?  If you did, said, or behaved in a certain way?

We don’t think about how it’s going to affect our kids when we say those things to them.

Everything that goes on in our lives shapes who we are and who we become

and the feelings we have.  We take things on.

We need to work on letting go:

First - acknowledge that you have shame within yourself.

Shame will look different for everyone - some people have shame about how they look, shame of being in public, or speaking up, there are so many because we are all so different.

You can quiet down those feelings and let it go by understanding how it affects you in your daily life, being ashamed about so many things prevents you from achieving the things that you want or prevents you from moving forward on things.

The only way to accomplish things is to get out of our comfort zone and do the things that are scary and do the things that you feel are shameful even though they may not be.

I will always tell you to write things down on paper, writing with a physical instrument will make a big difference.  Write everything down that you can remember about the shame that you’re feeling when it started, why you think you have this kind of shame 
even though it might be scary, but in the end, you’ll be glad you did.

Get it out of your head so that you can work on letting it go.

This will help you move forward in the right direction.  Holding on to the shame that you have inside of you is not helping you at all.

Denial is also a really big enemy.

We have to have the good and the bad in our life, there’s no way that everything can always be good.  We have to have the bad so that we can appreciate the good -

opposition helps us to grow and overcome those things, that’s how God intended life to be.

Don’t be hard on yourself and get yourself down, it is possible to overcome all of these things.  It may take a little time because you’ve probably had these feelings for a really long time.  It’s amazing how long someone can hold on to feelings of fear, doubt, and shame.

Change is really hard and can be scary, but the more you experience change - you start to realize that “hey it’s not so bad after all”.

Letting go could mean the unknown, what’s on the other end. If we let go of something,

you'll feel much better and feel different.

Letting go will feel much better than holding on to the shame and other feelings that are negative that aren’t helping you.

Sometimes it's better to get some help with understanding and figuring out these things, so if you would like my help you can email me at aloha@janinjohnston.com  we can see if there’s any way that we can work together.  I’m here to support and guide you in a way that would be best for you.

If you know anyone who is suffering from shame, then have them listen to this podcast and share with them what you’re learning, it’s always good to help other people.

Women love to talk with other women and discuss the problems of their day, so how about you talk with each other about this subject of SHAME.

It always feels good when you help somebody that you care about, so I encourage you to share this podcast with the people that you know.

Shame affects our lives by making us feel like we're not good enough, shame has so many different faces.  If you don’t feel like you’re good enough to do very many

things, then you just go through life living the same-old, same-old not wanting to stretch yourself or to make improvements or to work towards a dream or goal that you have.

You are worth your dreams and it's worth going towards your
goals, we all have dreams and goals.

We let life get in the way because we aren’t paying attention to those things that are really important and shame seems to get in our way.

It pops up and gets in our face and makes you feel like you can’t
do it or you’re not worth it.

If you’re feeling uncomfortable, it’s OK, the feeling should pass, it won’t stay with you forever.  Feel those feelings because if you try to ignore it that's when shame pops up in your face, and you’re not going to know what it is or how to deal with it.  

It’s so important to know how to recognize it.

You’re worth it, you’re worth the time it takes to get out of the denial and face your shame and admit that you have it so you
can overcome it.

Good and bad words have power whether we realize it or not, everything you hear and say affects you emotionally, mentally, spiritually.  So if you ever hear someone that you know say
“shame on you” please encourage them to not say that. 

If you can learn to speak up and start to recognize these things
and be vocal about it will be so much more powerful in helping move you forward in overcoming this shame.

Fear, doubt, and shame hold you and keeps you down and makes you crazy because you just don’t understand why it’s there or why doesn’t it just go away.

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Please share this podcast with anyone that you know of
who will benefit from the things that are in each episode.

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Mahalo for listening. A hui hou malama pono (take care,
until we meet again) 

Aloha, Janin 

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
Permission was given to use the music from this
artist.