Today I want to talk about the topic that every woman has
secret feelings about how she feels about her body!

I wanted to start off by letting you know that this is really
common.  Every woman has secret feelings about she feels
about her body.

Secret feelings don’t just show up one day in your mind
and heart, it’s like with anything that you struggle with,
it starts when you were a baby.

The one thing that I have always thought was really fascinating
is how little baby girls are so aware of what’s going on around
them.  If you’ve ever watched little babies, you’ll understand
what I’m talking about - it’s really fascinating.

They seem to be so much older than they really are!  I think it’s just amazing how these little spirits that have come to earth and they’re so much more valiant than ever before, they’re just so much smarter.

And for that reason, I want to focus on baby girls that become toddlers, pre-teenagers, teenagers and then women because, those are the stages in a woman’s life that she becomes more and more aware of how her

body looks as she gets older. If you’re a woman, you should have gone through all of those stages in your life and are now you’re at a point where you have recognized that you have these secret feelings about your body!

Secret feelings can be good or bad, and maybe you have both good and bad feelings about certain parts of your body because maybe, you might like your legs but not really liking the rest of your body.  There’s no end to what a woman can feel.

Baby girls are always paying attention to what’s going

on around them, all the time.  That’s just how girls are created, we’re just aware of everything.  If you think about it, that kind of awareness is something that continues on into adulthood.  I know it’s definitely a gift from God given to baby girls so that when they grow up and become adults and have their own families they will be able to know what’s happening and can nurture their own children.

With that in mind, it’s safe to say that how girls feel about their body is something that they learn from the women around them.  It’s usually a woman and/or grandmother that are/is the one taking care of and raising little girls.

A lot of grandparents are raising kids nowadays and it’s been happening for decades.

Everything that a baby, toddler, pre-teen & teenage girl hears about her body and other women’s bodies is taken in and processed in a very unique way deep within her mind and heart because everyone is different.

We take all of these things in, and I’m speaking for myself
too.

From what I’ve seen and heard over the last 25 years working with women and having women clients, is that most of what they say about their bodies is usually negative.

There were some that had extremely negative feelings too.

Because I’ve sewn for women for such a long time, I thought  I’ve heard it all!  But, you know what happens when I have to take my clients body measurements?  They start to reveal their secret feelings about how they feel about their body, because I’m wrapping a tape measure around them.

I guess you might say that they trust me enough to let me take their body measurements, so they trust me enough to tell me how they feel…about a lot of things besides their body.

They’ve said things like - they’ve heard women in their life say things out loud like - I have a big butt, I’m so fat, I’m too short, I’m ugly compared to _ _ _ _ _(you fill in the blank), my boobs are not big enough, I have thunder thighs!  Wow!  

That would scare anyone.  These are only a few of the things that women think and secretly feel about themselves, I have heard many more things from women but I won’t list them all because it’s really sad.

I just love people so much that I don’t even want to say some 
of the things that I’ve heard.

A lot of the secret feelings women have about their bodies 

are a learned behavior and comparing themselves to other 

women.  It’s just natural for a little girl growing up to copy what the women in their life are feeling, what they’re saying and what they’re doing - even if it’s harmful to their mind, their heart, their body and their spirit.

It is possible to overcome this kind of negative feeling about 

your body. (I just wanted to let you know)

It will take a little time if you’re willing and want to let go of 

those negative feelings that have been dragging you down for who knows how long.  It’s not worth holding on to negative secret feelings that are probably not true.

I’ve heard a lot of things that I know are not true about what 
these women are saying.

Women come in all shapes and sizes which is a wonderful 
thing, because that makes us all unique.  You have to know
that your value as a woman is priceless.  I hope you ladies
think about this!

One of the most powerful things that you can do to get started on having a more positive feeling about your body is by learning how to dress for your body shape and your height.

I can’t stress enough how powerful it is to dress in a way 
that makes you look good in the clothes that you have on!  

I’ve seen it over and over again for many years how wearing 
the right style of clothes that works to highlight the right parts 
of your body (not that there’s a wrong part of your body), but
you want to put an emphasis on the right parts and not only 
that, but wearing the right styles of clothing that fits you per-
fectly and it just happens to give you a boost of confidence 
when you are wearing clothes that fits you right and you feel 
good in it.  

Now that, I say is powerful!  We all want confidence right!

Always remember - you want to wear clothes that work best 
for YOUR body shape and height, and not wear the style of 
clothes that the fashion models are wearing that you see on 
commercials and in magazines and billboards, you see it 
everywhere.

Those images that you see are photoshopped, none of it is real. Just remember these things.

When YOU look good, you FEEL good!  Looking good is different for everyone.

I wanted to share that with you today, it is possible for everyone
to look good in the clothes that they're wearing.

As I share more podcast episodes, as I mix in the fashion 
and the style and the clothing fit in with your finances - I’m
going to show you how it all works together.

I would love to hear what you would want to know about and 
some of the things that you’re feeling or some of the things 
that you’re learning or any ah-ha moments.  I would love that! 

It really makes my day when I get messages from people.

I really hope that you really get a lot of value and maybe even
re-listen to this episode, because these secret feelings about
your body - maybe you want to think about it and see.  Are your
feelings negative or positive?

I would love for you to share this podcast with anybody who you feel would benefit from listening to all of these things that I’m teaching and sharing.

I hope you have a great day and I’ll see you soon, and I will 
definitely be talking with you again.

Please share this podcast with a friend or family member who 
you think would get some value out of listening to the different episodes.  I really appreciate it, mahalo for doing that.

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Aloha, Janin 

a huihou malama pono, which means - until next time, take care

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It’s Time for Fashion!

It’s time to add the FASHION into the FashionableFianance.com!

For a while now I’ve only been writing, talking, and podcasting about you and your finances.  While learning about your finances is extremely important, so is fashion (in my opinion of course).

I say that fashion is important because everyone has to wear clothes!

That’s just the bottom line right?  There’s just no way around it,
especially when the weather is really hot and humid and you don’t really want to put clothes on, we don’t have a choice - we all have
to wear clothes.

I will continue to talk about finances in between all of the fashion information I share, because…what you wear does have an impact on your finances!  I know you’re thinking “what?”  I will be sharing with you why and how in the coming months.  So stay tuned!

For right now I want you to know that It’s important to care about
what you wear.

I have a question for you:

Did you ever stop to think about what you wear every day?

Think about that for a minute.

With life being so busy all the time, it’s really hard to get everything in your life working for you the way you want it on a daily basis.  We have to juggle things sometimes and there’s always something that comes up.

Fashion and clothes are not always the first thing on people’s mind when they get up in the morning.  Sometimes I think a lot of people are like me and are just happy to know that we even got out of bed, especially when you’re tired and the bed is nice and cozy!

Ok, got a little off-topic, but I just had to share that. :)

For some, the idea of having to put together an outfit feels frustrating, and then having to do it in the morning is even more frustrating, especially if you’re in a rush to get ready, get children ready and get out the door in time.  Oh yah, I forgot to mention all the stuff that needs to happen in between the getting dressed and getting out the door.

There’s like a million things, especially if you have to make your own lunch - who knows what else, it could add up to a lot of things.

It can make anyone crazy!  I’ve been there, done that.  It’s not fun. Learning from the past is sooo great, because now I can help other women with these kinds of things that I’ve gone through as a mother with 4 children - trying to get out the door (In one piece) without screaming and yelling at your children.

I’m not perfect, I did yell at my children but that’s for another time and another story.

Learning how to dress and what clothes look best on you can be

simple and fun with some help if you’re open to recommendations.

Most women I know are open to learning what they can do to up their style.

Who doesn’t want to look good in their clothes, right?

I do know that not everyone is interested in fashion and style, and that’s OK, you don’t have to be.

BUT, you do have to be interested in knowing how to dress for your body type, what colors look best on you and how to make sure your clothes fit you properly.  All of these things will make a big difference on how you feel while you’re wearing your clothes.

These three things are the most common areas of fashion and style that a lot of people don’t know and understand, which ends up in buying clothes that don’t work for them and a lot of money being wasted on those items.

I know a few women that have bought clothes because they thought the items were really nice and they loved the color and oh… it was on sale and was really cheap, only to hang it in their closet with the store tags still on the clothes and never, ever have these clothes seen the light of day again.

Is that you?  Is there anyone out there that is doing that or has done that?

If you have, it’s OK.  No judgment here.  

I would just recommend that you ask yourself some questions, like:

~Are you ever going to wear that item of clothing in your lifetime?

~What did you like about that item, that made you buy it?

~Did you buy it because you were just having a bad day and needed to do some emotional shopping?  (sometimes we have to do that!)

~Does it fit you right?  If you don’t remember, try it on.

If you do have these clothes hanging in your closet with the tags still on them, go in there and ask yourself all these questions about each items.

If you don’t know the answers to any of these questions, then I would recommend that you give it to someone that you know who would really appreciate it and would fit into it.  Or, if you are ashamed to give it to someone that you know then consider donating it to an organization that helps women get back up on their feet and helps them look for a job.

These organizations always need new items of clothing for women to look professional while they are going on job interviews.

Either way, don’t hang onto it if you know you will never wear it.  It’ just creates clutter and takes up space in your closet that you could be using for something that you’ll actually wear on a regular basis.

Believe it or not, clearing out your closet is one of the first steps to learning about how to dress for your body type, what colors look best on you and having your clothes fit you right.

It’s the first step because when you have a closet full of clothes that you don’t even wear, whether it’s brand new or not creates a place of confusion and sometimes stress.

I can also bet that at least half of the clothes in your closet don’t fit
you right, I know this from experience.  Especially since I’ve sewn for women for 25 years.

So, as soon as you can, open your closet and see what’s going on in there.  Start by pulling out an item of clothing that still has tags on them, or you know that you will never wear again.  A little at a time is the best thing to do, don’t try to tackle your closet all in one day.  No stressing allowed.

I know that if you just start there, you will immediately feel an interesting kind of relief.  Try it and find out!

I’m so happy that you’re here and I would love it if you would share this podcast with other people out there, especially women since I talk about women most of the time.  

There’s got to be somebody else out there that you know who would get great value out of listening to this, and if they don’t know what a podcast is then I think it’s time that you show them.

Thank you again for listening because I know everyone is so busy and you could be somewhere else at this time, but you chose to listen to me and I’m so grateful for that - Mahalo!

A Hui Hou Malama Pono, until next time, take care.

Aloha,

Janin

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I hope you get a lot of value out of listening to this podcast.  

I wanted to let all of you listening know that I didn’t forget
about you.  I’ve been working on incorporating fashion, style,
and clothing fit into fashionable finance.  

So far I’ve only been talking about is how to deal with you
finances and to have JOY at the same time, while letting
women know that it’s OK to talk about money and ask for help. 

I also love to share and teach on the topics that can help you 
improve your life, because I always want to inspire and help
women and moms who are really busy and to have them be
able to learn on the go.  Sometimes it seems like that’s the
only way we can get things accomplished and learn 

Helping women has always been really important to me my
entire adult life.  I think about all of you listeners all the time
and wonder what I can share with you that will make a difference
in your life.

I think about it constantly because I love to share.

It’s time now to incorporate the style, fashion and clothing fit
into this podcast and not only talk about finances and life. 
There’s a lot more to learn and experience.  I’m all about
creating experiences for people.  It has definitely been the
highlight of my day when I was teaching my students how to
sew and how to incorporate everyday items into the realm of
creating and sewing, and just being creative.  

It’s so easy to combine the two.

And that’s where the magic happens is when my students had
these experiences and they got excited when they could see
what I was trying to show and teach them.  That’s what I
want for you.

It can be a really magical experience when you combine two
things or ideas that you would never think could go together,
but somehow it just works beautifully.

That’s like combining or meshing fashion and finance, it sounds
a bit strange but it works. 

I hope to be able to show you how it works as time goes by and
you are able to listen to the other episodes that I have planned
and I want to create for you.

And by the way, I don’t teach fashion that teaches you how to be
trendy, because trendy only works for a select few women, (and
let me emphasize a few!) for the most part, it doesn’t work well
overall.  

So don’t worry that I’m going to be teaching about crazy fashion
trends and ideas that wouldn’t work for you.  I’m a no-nonsense
type of person.  I teach what works and what doesn’t.  I feel that’s
the best way to go.  I like to teach so that you can get the best out
of what works for you and your figure and lifestyle. 

I just wanted to share that with you, I wanted you to know that I
have more podcast episodes coming your way and I hope you find it
interesting.  I’m going to see how it works - incorporating fashion and finance.

Thanks again for, you being here and listening to this episode and
listening to me, I really appreciate it because there are so many things to do and life is busy and I’m thankful that you chose to listen to this podcast.

If you enjoyed listening to this podcast, I would love for you to
share any of the podcast episodes with other people that you know
who you think would be able to benefit from the things that I’m sharing.

It really makes my day to know that I’m helping other people out and I want so much to enrich their lives, to help them to grow and learn and have a much more fulfilling life as well as those of you that are listening.

Please Rate, Review & Subscribe!

Aloha, Janin

a hui hou malama pono - until next time, take care!