Today I want to talk about the topic that every woman has
secret feelings about how she feels about her body!

I wanted to start off by letting you know that this is really
common.  Every woman has secret feelings about she feels
about her body.

Secret feelings don’t just show up one day in your mind
and heart, it’s like with anything that you struggle with,
it starts when you were a baby.

The one thing that I have always thought was really fascinating
is how little baby girls are so aware of what’s going on around
them.  If you’ve ever watched little babies, you’ll understand
what I’m talking about - it’s really fascinating.

They seem to be so much older than they really are!  I think it’s just amazing how these little spirits that have come to earth and they’re so much more valiant than ever before, they’re just so much smarter.

And for that reason, I want to focus on baby girls that become toddlers, pre-teenagers, teenagers and then women because, those are the stages in a woman’s life that she becomes more and more aware of how her

body looks as she gets older. If you’re a woman, you should have gone through all of those stages in your life and are now you’re at a point where you have recognized that you have these secret feelings about your body!

Secret feelings can be good or bad, and maybe you have both good and bad feelings about certain parts of your body because maybe, you might like your legs but not really liking the rest of your body.  There’s no end to what a woman can feel.

Baby girls are always paying attention to what’s going

on around them, all the time.  That’s just how girls are created, we’re just aware of everything.  If you think about it, that kind of awareness is something that continues on into adulthood.  I know it’s definitely a gift from God given to baby girls so that when they grow up and become adults and have their own families they will be able to know what’s happening and can nurture their own children.

With that in mind, it’s safe to say that how girls feel about their body is something that they learn from the women around them.  It’s usually a woman and/or grandmother that are/is the one taking care of and raising little girls.

A lot of grandparents are raising kids nowadays and it’s been happening for decades.

Everything that a baby, toddler, pre-teen & teenage girl hears about her body and other women’s bodies is taken in and processed in a very unique way deep within her mind and heart because everyone is different.

We take all of these things in, and I’m speaking for myself
too.

From what I’ve seen and heard over the last 25 years working with women and having women clients, is that most of what they say about their bodies is usually negative.

There were some that had extremely negative feelings too.

Because I’ve sewn for women for such a long time, I thought  I’ve heard it all!  But, you know what happens when I have to take my clients body measurements?  They start to reveal their secret feelings about how they feel about their body, because I’m wrapping a tape measure around them.

I guess you might say that they trust me enough to let me take their body measurements, so they trust me enough to tell me how they feel…about a lot of things besides their body.

They’ve said things like - they’ve heard women in their life say things out loud like - I have a big butt, I’m so fat, I’m too short, I’m ugly compared to _ _ _ _ _(you fill in the blank), my boobs are not big enough, I have thunder thighs!  Wow!  

That would scare anyone.  These are only a few of the things that women think and secretly feel about themselves, I have heard many more things from women but I won’t list them all because it’s really sad.

I just love people so much that I don’t even want to say some 
of the things that I’ve heard.

A lot of the secret feelings women have about their bodies 

are a learned behavior and comparing themselves to other 

women.  It’s just natural for a little girl growing up to copy what the women in their life are feeling, what they’re saying and what they’re doing - even if it’s harmful to their mind, their heart, their body and their spirit.

It is possible to overcome this kind of negative feeling about 

your body. (I just wanted to let you know)

It will take a little time if you’re willing and want to let go of 

those negative feelings that have been dragging you down for who knows how long.  It’s not worth holding on to negative secret feelings that are probably not true.

I’ve heard a lot of things that I know are not true about what 
these women are saying.

Women come in all shapes and sizes which is a wonderful 
thing, because that makes us all unique.  You have to know
that your value as a woman is priceless.  I hope you ladies
think about this!

One of the most powerful things that you can do to get started on having a more positive feeling about your body is by learning how to dress for your body shape and your height.

I can’t stress enough how powerful it is to dress in a way 
that makes you look good in the clothes that you have on!  

I’ve seen it over and over again for many years how wearing 
the right style of clothes that works to highlight the right parts 
of your body (not that there’s a wrong part of your body), but
you want to put an emphasis on the right parts and not only 
that, but wearing the right styles of clothing that fits you per-
fectly and it just happens to give you a boost of confidence 
when you are wearing clothes that fits you right and you feel 
good in it.  

Now that, I say is powerful!  We all want confidence right!

Always remember - you want to wear clothes that work best 
for YOUR body shape and height, and not wear the style of 
clothes that the fashion models are wearing that you see on 
commercials and in magazines and billboards, you see it 
everywhere.

Those images that you see are photoshopped, none of it is real. Just remember these things.

When YOU look good, you FEEL good!  Looking good is different for everyone.

I wanted to share that with you today, it is possible for everyone
to look good in the clothes that they're wearing.

As I share more podcast episodes, as I mix in the fashion 
and the style and the clothing fit in with your finances - I’m
going to show you how it all works together.

I would love to hear what you would want to know about and 
some of the things that you’re feeling or some of the things 
that you’re learning or any ah-ha moments.  I would love that! 

It really makes my day when I get messages from people.

I really hope that you really get a lot of value and maybe even
re-listen to this episode, because these secret feelings about
your body - maybe you want to think about it and see.  Are your
feelings negative or positive?

I would love for you to share this podcast with anybody who you feel would benefit from listening to all of these things that I’m teaching and sharing.

I hope you have a great day and I’ll see you soon, and I will 
definitely be talking with you again.

Please share this podcast with a friend or family member who 
you think would get some value out of listening to the different episodes.  I really appreciate it, mahalo for doing that.

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

Please share this podcast with anyone that you know of
who will benefit from the things that are in each episode.

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Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin 

a huihou malama pono, which means - until next time, take care

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It’s Time for Fashion!

It’s time to add the FASHION into the FashionableFianance.com!

For a while now I’ve only been writing, talking, and podcasting about you and your finances.  While learning about your finances is extremely important, so is fashion (in my opinion of course).

I say that fashion is important because everyone has to wear clothes!

That’s just the bottom line right?  There’s just no way around it,
especially when the weather is really hot and humid and you don’t really want to put clothes on, we don’t have a choice - we all have
to wear clothes.

I will continue to talk about finances in between all of the fashion information I share, because…what you wear does have an impact on your finances!  I know you’re thinking “what?”  I will be sharing with you why and how in the coming months.  So stay tuned!

For right now I want you to know that It’s important to care about
what you wear.

I have a question for you:

Did you ever stop to think about what you wear every day?

Think about that for a minute.

With life being so busy all the time, it’s really hard to get everything in your life working for you the way you want it on a daily basis.  We have to juggle things sometimes and there’s always something that comes up.

Fashion and clothes are not always the first thing on people’s mind when they get up in the morning.  Sometimes I think a lot of people are like me and are just happy to know that we even got out of bed, especially when you’re tired and the bed is nice and cozy!

Ok, got a little off-topic, but I just had to share that. :)

For some, the idea of having to put together an outfit feels frustrating, and then having to do it in the morning is even more frustrating, especially if you’re in a rush to get ready, get children ready and get out the door in time.  Oh yah, I forgot to mention all the stuff that needs to happen in between the getting dressed and getting out the door.

There’s like a million things, especially if you have to make your own lunch - who knows what else, it could add up to a lot of things.

It can make anyone crazy!  I’ve been there, done that.  It’s not fun. Learning from the past is sooo great, because now I can help other women with these kinds of things that I’ve gone through as a mother with 4 children - trying to get out the door (In one piece) without screaming and yelling at your children.

I’m not perfect, I did yell at my children but that’s for another time and another story.

Learning how to dress and what clothes look best on you can be

simple and fun with some help if you’re open to recommendations.

Most women I know are open to learning what they can do to up their style.

Who doesn’t want to look good in their clothes, right?

I do know that not everyone is interested in fashion and style, and that’s OK, you don’t have to be.

BUT, you do have to be interested in knowing how to dress for your body type, what colors look best on you and how to make sure your clothes fit you properly.  All of these things will make a big difference on how you feel while you’re wearing your clothes.

These three things are the most common areas of fashion and style that a lot of people don’t know and understand, which ends up in buying clothes that don’t work for them and a lot of money being wasted on those items.

I know a few women that have bought clothes because they thought the items were really nice and they loved the color and oh… it was on sale and was really cheap, only to hang it in their closet with the store tags still on the clothes and never, ever have these clothes seen the light of day again.

Is that you?  Is there anyone out there that is doing that or has done that?

If you have, it’s OK.  No judgment here.  

I would just recommend that you ask yourself some questions, like:

~Are you ever going to wear that item of clothing in your lifetime?

~What did you like about that item, that made you buy it?

~Did you buy it because you were just having a bad day and needed to do some emotional shopping?  (sometimes we have to do that!)

~Does it fit you right?  If you don’t remember, try it on.

If you do have these clothes hanging in your closet with the tags still on them, go in there and ask yourself all these questions about each items.

If you don’t know the answers to any of these questions, then I would recommend that you give it to someone that you know who would really appreciate it and would fit into it.  Or, if you are ashamed to give it to someone that you know then consider donating it to an organization that helps women get back up on their feet and helps them look for a job.

These organizations always need new items of clothing for women to look professional while they are going on job interviews.

Either way, don’t hang onto it if you know you will never wear it.  It’ just creates clutter and takes up space in your closet that you could be using for something that you’ll actually wear on a regular basis.

Believe it or not, clearing out your closet is one of the first steps to learning about how to dress for your body type, what colors look best on you and having your clothes fit you right.

It’s the first step because when you have a closet full of clothes that you don’t even wear, whether it’s brand new or not creates a place of confusion and sometimes stress.

I can also bet that at least half of the clothes in your closet don’t fit
you right, I know this from experience.  Especially since I’ve sewn for women for 25 years.

So, as soon as you can, open your closet and see what’s going on in there.  Start by pulling out an item of clothing that still has tags on them, or you know that you will never wear again.  A little at a time is the best thing to do, don’t try to tackle your closet all in one day.  No stressing allowed.

I know that if you just start there, you will immediately feel an interesting kind of relief.  Try it and find out!

I’m so happy that you’re here and I would love it if you would share this podcast with other people out there, especially women since I talk about women most of the time.  

There’s got to be somebody else out there that you know who would get great value out of listening to this, and if they don’t know what a podcast is then I think it’s time that you show them.

Thank you again for listening because I know everyone is so busy and you could be somewhere else at this time, but you chose to listen to me and I’m so grateful for that - Mahalo!

A Hui Hou Malama Pono, until next time, take care.

Aloha,

Janin

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I hope you get a lot of value out of listening to this podcast.  

I wanted to let all of you listening know that I didn’t forget
about you.  I’ve been working on incorporating fashion, style,
and clothing fit into fashionable finance.  

So far I’ve only been talking about is how to deal with you
finances and to have JOY at the same time, while letting
women know that it’s OK to talk about money and ask for help. 

I also love to share and teach on the topics that can help you 
improve your life, because I always want to inspire and help
women and moms who are really busy and to have them be
able to learn on the go.  Sometimes it seems like that’s the
only way we can get things accomplished and learn 

Helping women has always been really important to me my
entire adult life.  I think about all of you listeners all the time
and wonder what I can share with you that will make a difference
in your life.

I think about it constantly because I love to share.

It’s time now to incorporate the style, fashion and clothing fit
into this podcast and not only talk about finances and life. 
There’s a lot more to learn and experience.  I’m all about
creating experiences for people.  It has definitely been the
highlight of my day when I was teaching my students how to
sew and how to incorporate everyday items into the realm of
creating and sewing, and just being creative.  

It’s so easy to combine the two.

And that’s where the magic happens is when my students had
these experiences and they got excited when they could see
what I was trying to show and teach them.  That’s what I
want for you.

It can be a really magical experience when you combine two
things or ideas that you would never think could go together,
but somehow it just works beautifully.

That’s like combining or meshing fashion and finance, it sounds
a bit strange but it works. 

I hope to be able to show you how it works as time goes by and
you are able to listen to the other episodes that I have planned
and I want to create for you.

And by the way, I don’t teach fashion that teaches you how to be
trendy, because trendy only works for a select few women, (and
let me emphasize a few!) for the most part, it doesn’t work well
overall.  

So don’t worry that I’m going to be teaching about crazy fashion
trends and ideas that wouldn’t work for you.  I’m a no-nonsense
type of person.  I teach what works and what doesn’t.  I feel that’s
the best way to go.  I like to teach so that you can get the best out
of what works for you and your figure and lifestyle. 

I just wanted to share that with you, I wanted you to know that I
have more podcast episodes coming your way and I hope you find it
interesting.  I’m going to see how it works - incorporating fashion and finance.

Thanks again for, you being here and listening to this episode and
listening to me, I really appreciate it because there are so many things to do and life is busy and I’m thankful that you chose to listen to this podcast.

If you enjoyed listening to this podcast, I would love for you to
share any of the podcast episodes with other people that you know
who you think would be able to benefit from the things that I’m sharing.

It really makes my day to know that I’m helping other people out and I want so much to enrich their lives, to help them to grow and learn and have a much more fulfilling life as well as those of you that are listening.

Please Rate, Review & Subscribe!

Aloha, Janin

a hui hou malama pono - until next time, take care!

The topic of doing things differently in your life is a
really interesting one and you’ll understand what I
mean.

I’ve always been the kind of person that I've always tried to do things a little differently in my life.  I think it started from when I was a little girl because I can remember when I was a kid having that thought and feeling of wanting to do things how I wanted to do it
and when I wanted to do it.  You might want to call it rebellion kind of sounds like rebellion, I think I did become rebellious when I was a pre-teen(I hope it
didn’t start when I was a kid in elementary, that
wouldn’t be good!)    

(Sorry Mom!) 

I have to apologize to my mom because I'm pretty
sure I gave my Mom and other family members a lot of stress at times or shall I say quite often.  As I think about it now, I think I felt and acted that way because of the amount of creative energy that I had from a really young age.

As a kid I always went with that creative energy that was moving and flowing, isn’t that what we’re supposed to do?  We’re supposed to go with that flow, that we’re feeling.  

I have to thank my Mom because she was the one that was always doing something creative with my siblings and me.  I am so grateful for that!  We were always doing crafts, I did a lot of sewing, she did a lot of sewing and we were always just creating - working with clay and things like that.

Why is it that, it always seems the case that we don’t appreciate our moms until we get much, much older, and then we have to suffer in our own lives before we wake up and appreciate our moms!

I’m glad at least I woke and started appreciating all the things that she did for me.

What I've come to realize is that you have to find out who you are, all the way down to the depths of your very soul.  When you do that it becomes very evident that we are all different on every level.  And what I've seen from so many people is that they sometimes don't 
really know who they are, or, are a little afraid of what they know about themselves and that’s a natural feeling - so don’t feel bad if you find out things about yourself that you don’t like or you’re a little afraid of it.

I am here to tell you that being different and doing things differently is one of the many great things that you can do for yourself, and for those people who are closest to you because they’re actually the one’s 
who reap the benefits of who you are - whether it’s good or bad.

Now, I'm not talkin' about being the weird kind of different that people will be turned off by.  I'm just talking about being you, which is different.  
There is only one “you”, one of you on this planet,
there is no one else like you.

So, when you become comfortable with being different, then doing things differently becomes a breeze!  You'll start to notice that things start to get better in your life.  Now I know that this idea is not easy for a lot of people, but, I do know that it’s well worth it.

One thing that you can do today to start to do things differently is:

~Decide that this is what you want to do and commit 
to know that this is going to be a fantastic thing
for you.

There are so many benefits of doing things differently.  
I just want to let you know that I love the fact that I
do things differently than a lot of other people that I know.  I'm not afraid of it.  If a thought or idea that comes to me, then I go with the flow.  It has helped me in so many ways that it's impossible to really mention it all, right here.

I want to talk more about the benefits of doing things differently in your life and maybe you can see what I mean.

One of the benefits is:

~You start to feel like you’re special, and this is great if you don’t
already feel like that.

Now, I'm not sure if you have even thought about
feeling like you're special or that you even care to
feel like that.  But, I will say that when you start to
care about how you feel about yourself, everyone 
around you will start to notice and even make a comment or two.  
I want to challenge you to start thinking about that.

Another benefit:

~Your sense of awareness becomes greater because you're not focusing on trying to be or become like someone else.

Greater awareness is always a good thing that's for sure.  Who wouldn't want to notice things around us that can benefit us, or those that we care about.  It's when we are paying attention that we can enjoy the benefits of that newfound sense of awareness.  

So, basically, it’s all about awareness of you and your surroundings and the benefits will definitely be different for everyone, so you won’t really know until you try it out.

One more benefit:

~You'll find that your level of confidence starts to grow.  You know something very interesting that I've noticed for many years now, is that as peoples' confidence level starts to grow they start to realize that they aren't so: dumb, stupid, unworthy, ridiculous, foolish, or … (you
fill in the blank).

You start to have a lot of small little accomplishments that lead you straight to a higher level of confidence
as you keep plugging away and doing these things a little differently (like in your own special way).  
If you keep at it every day, you’ll start to notice your confidence starting to grow and who wouldn’t want to be confident, right!

I know that all of these things do take time and it will take time.  
This is not something that happens overnight (unfortunately, sometimes I wish it did) but I want to encourage you to hang in there, keep going, keep moving forward in the pursuit of 'being who you really are” doing things differently.  

We’re all striving to be happy.  If you do things differently in your life (and you could incorporate this into all areas of your life) it doesn’t have to be only one specific thing or one specific way, just start off by focusing on one area and think about how you can do something different - even starting right now.

Write it down, I always talk about pencil and paper. Write things down.  
Just jot down an idea or two that you might have about what you could do differently in your life, it really will have a big impact on your life but you’ll never know
until you get started.  You will definitely reap all of 
the benefits that are waiting for you when you do 
things differently and find out who you really are.  

I want you to start today, I’m cheering for you!
(Rah! Rah!)

I want to be in your corner and cheer you on and if
you need my help, I would love for you to connect
with me at aloha@janinjohnston.com 

I would love for you to share this podcast with other people that you know who you think would be able
to benefit from the things that I’m sharing.

All the things that I share are all the things that I’ve learned and gone through in my life and learned by experience and so please share this message with
other people, you’ll be amazed at how it could really 
help someone when you didn’t think it could.  So let them know. 

I would appreciate it if you would go to Apple
Podcasts and give me an honest rating and an
honest review, I would really appreciate that and it
lets me know what you folks are liking and not liking 
and if you think it’s of value.  I only want to share value,
I don’t want to share anything that’s not worth your
time because it wouldn’t benefit me or you!

I would love to help you in your pursuit of Doing Things Differently In Your Life.

I thank you so much, I really appreciate you being here because there are so many things to do and life is busy and I’m thankful that you chose this podcast.

I want to send out some wonderful Hawaiian sunshine to all of you.

It really makes my day to know that I’m helping other people out there and enriching their lives, to help them to grow and learn and have a much more fulfilling life.

I want to thank you, a hui hou malama pono -
until next time, take care!

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

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Subscribe to this podcast in Apple Podcasts, so
that you'll never miss an episode.

Mahalo for listening.

Aloha, Janin 

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I want to share with all of you about Not Looking Back:

Unfortunately It’s something that we all do...a lot!  I, myself
have caught myself looking back at all the things that I’ve
done in my life that was either - wrong, crazy, hurtful and
way to much more that I don’t even really want to think
about.  A number of years ago I realized that I had a tendency
to always look back at the negative things instead of the
positive things that I did.  Why do we do that?  We tend to
always look back at the negative and not the positive.

We’re all growing and learning were here on earth to learn and
grow, we’re not perfect.  So, that’s why sometimes we do those
crazy things like looking back at the negative instead of trying
to find out what was really good to and think about all those
good things we did.

Now, looking back on the negative is only a good thing when
you going to try and learn from it, when you’re going to try and
make better choices and maybe change direction in your life
and really be on a good path and maybe even trying to change
your behavior or anything like that.

But, it’s really not a good idea to look back at the negative and
then torture yourself about the bad things that you’ve done, and
it’s just a natural human tendency that we have.  We’re not taught
as little kids to look back the things that didn’t go right or the
things that we’ve done wrong and try to learn from it.

I think they need to teach all these things in school,  even as
early as elementary.  What do you think?  Let me know.

What impact it’s having on our lives when we think about all
the negative things, or just the whole idea of looking back at
the negative is kind of scary.

So, what impact is it having on your life, let me ask you that.
So think back at the last time you looked back at your past
and depending on how old you are, you can have many, many
years on things that you’ve done that maybe you wish you
could change.

Of course we can’t wish and we can’t change the past, but
think about things that you’ve thought about recently that
you’ve done in the past and it was really negative, and then
it just got you down thinking about it because, that’s one of
the things that looking at your negative past does to you - if
you’re not using it to help correct your life now and you’re just
trying to beat yourself up about all the bad things that you’ve
done.   

When was the last time you thought about that and what did
it do to you?

Did it put you in a state of depression?

Did it just want to make you eat sugar?

Did it just want to make you scream?

Think back to when the last time it was, it could have been
today, it could have been last month, who know!  We have so
many thoughts that go through our head every day that it’s
just amazing.        

Each podcast I always say “write everything down, get it out
of your head”, by now I hope that you actually have written
things down.  Maybe you bought a notebook or created your
own.  Write it down, it has such an amazing effect when you
physically write it on paper verses on your computer or smart
phone.

I’ve talked about this many times in my different episodes.
But think about it, write it down - what was the last thing that
you thought about that was negative and when was it.  Think
about how you could actually turn that around and make it so
that it could actually help you in your life verses just using it
to torture yourself, because that really doesn’t help you or
anyone around you.

Because when you start to get depressed or frustrated, we
tend to take it out on the people that are the closest to us -
our family and even sometimes friends or if you work.  If you
have a job around a lot of other people and somebody’s irritating
you, you might just want to take out your irritation on them.

Think about that, what is that thing that you keep thinking about?
A lot of times it’s just a couple of things, sometimes we don’t
think about the many, many things we did, but somethings
there’s a couple things that we tend to torture ourselves with.

I know because I’ve actually done that, I’ve realized that it was
usually just a couple of things that I used to torture myself with -
thinking about how stupid it was, why did I do that it made no sense.

Who knows what else, I don’t even want to remember the
thoughts that I was thinking at the time.

What you have to remember is that we’re human and we have
to learn all these things, nobody teaches us these things when
we were little.

So, if you’ve never been taught how to do certain things, now’s
a good time to start taking notes.

I always encourage people to listen to these episodes more
than once because you can always learn something new when
you listen to each episode more then one time, because there’s
so much content involved and so many things that I’m talking
about.

So, start by writing things out and just go back in your mind.
If it’s to hard, then maybe you have to work yourself up to
thinking about it instead of just trying to go back there in your
mind.

Sometimes if you think about it, when you actually can get it
out of your head - get it out of your thoughts, it’s easier to let
it go.  We like to hold on to every good and bad.

It’s not really healthy for us to hold on everything that’s not
working for us.  It’s a good start, it’s a good practice to have -
to write everything out.

It starts the process of you recognizing it and then eventually
you’ll have the ability to let it go.  Well, you actually have to
want to let it go first before you can let it go.

I would say, after you get it out on paper think about why you
were even thinking about that because sometimes when you’re
doing something, there’s always a trigger somewhere.  When
you’re doing something or you’re in a location or you’re around
certain people, there’s those triggers that pop into your head
and reminds you of the past of those negative things that you’ve
done.  Sometimes it’s a place or a person that is the cause of
this, we have to take responsibility ourselves for inappropriate
actions.

Sometimes if there’s another person involved, it could be the
other person just making you crazy and who knows you could
have said something really horrible or if that person was irritating
you, you could have just snapped and said something that really
you shouldn’t have that really hurt that other person.

Who knows, there’s endless possibilities of things that could
have happened.  Catch yourself too, as you go about your daily
life, really catch yourself in everything that you do.  Think about
the things that you say and the places that you go, think about
what  you’re doing and if you’re starting to say something that
you know you’re going to regret!  Then try to catch yourself and
stop yourself from saying something that could be really harmful
to somebody else and the more you practice that, the easier it
becomes to start catching yourself.

Of course, it is a little bit of work, but once you get that habit
going  - always thinking about what you’re going to say first.
It really will make a big difference.

I’m one of those, that I like to speak my mind so sometimes I
don’t think about what I’m saying, I just open my mouth and I
realize that I shouldn’t have said that.  Now I really try to work
on thinking about what I’m going to say first.  I’ve been to places
where I’ve said things and then I thought “oh” and if my husband
was with me, he would tell me later “why did you say that!”  I
would just be in a state of shock like “oh, yah I don’t know why
I said that” and of course he’s either embarrassed or he’s just
confused as to why I say the things I say.

Sometimes we do that to our spouses, (but not on purpose)
It’s a give and take right! ;)

I just want to encourage you to try and catch yourself whenever
you’re going throughout your day and sometimes it doesn’t
even involve anybody else when you do things that really are
negative and sometimes it’s just you.  It’s O.K., just know t
hat you’re human and you’re just like everybody else who’s
trying to work through this life and learn and grow to become
a better person.

If you can just start with these few things, it will really make you
feel good.  I didn’t realize how good it made me feel when I
realized a while back that I was doing this crazy thing on just
torturing myself about all the negative things that I’ve ever done
in the past and it really was eye-opening and now I’m so glad
that I recognized it and I’m trying to work on not torturing myself.
I’ve come a long way, it’s taken a while.  I don’t want to feel yucky
like that anymore and sometimes there’s no better word to use
then yucky, because yucky is just kind of a mishmash of a whole
bunch of feelings.  You just get tired after a while of feeling yucky
and you just don’t want it anymore.  You got to figure out why
you’re feeling yucky and one of the things that make you feel
like that is just looking back on all this negativity.

Try and make it an effort, you might even want to make it a
practice every day to start looking at all the positive things that
you’ve ever done, the people’s lives that you’ve impacted the
things that you’ve accomplished or anything that’s good.

Start cheering for yourself, start celebrating the wonderful things
that you’ve done.  Celebrating yourself, it doesn’t have to be
this big celebration that’s not what I’m talking about, but of
course you can do that if you want.

Just celebrate with yourself or with a friend or your family or
anybody.  Go out and get a snack or go get a bite to eat and
just celebrate and talk about the positive and you’ll be really
amazed at what a difference it will make and how you’ll feel.

I really encourage you to take this step forward because this
kind of looking back stuff really prevents you from moving
forward in your life.  It’s really hard to overcome things and
accomplish great things and great things are different to
everybody, but it’s really difficult when you’re constantly
looking back at the negative.

Try and NOT look back and try to work towards focusing on
the positive.

I promise you, you’ll be really happy and might even feel some
excitement that “hey, I can do this”.

Again I would ask you to please share this podcast with anybody
who you think would get great value out of it, maybe you know
somebody struggling with something that maybe listening to
any of these episodes will help them. 

I thank you again for listening I really appreciate you being here
and I hope you have a fantastic day.

a hui hou malama pono - until next time, take care

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Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production

I want to talk to you about service.
What comes to your mind when you hear that word?  
I’m talking about the kind of service that you would render to someone.

Service brings all kinds of thoughts to our minds.  Sometimes people
haven’t had the best experience with service and some people haven’t 
had any experience serving.

Everything that we do has some kind of impact on other people’s lives, 
whether you’re working at your job, or in a community.

Let me ask you another question.  Have you ever been a recipient of 
someone doing service for you or to you?   

Serving someone if one of the greatest things you could ever do in your 
life and I can say that because I have experienced it, I have talked to many,
many people who give service and have received service.  I have found 
that serving other people is not something most people think about on a 
daily basis.  

Now, I’m not talking about the kind of service that you sacrifice your health, 
family or anything like that.  That’s why the word service scares people 
because that’s what they think will happen; if you serve in any capacity 
you’re going to have to sacrifice those things.  But...I’m talking about 
the kind of service that would help, uplift, make a difference in someone’s 
life.  It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant or extreme that’s not what
I’m talking about.

There’s not enough talk about being of service.  I know it’s because people 
are so consumed with their own life that it’s hard to think about being of 
service to others and that’s a natural feeling, that’s how things are now 
and everyone is really busy.

Everywhere you go, you see people rushing around, rushing to and from 
work, rushing to take their kids to school and then to their extra-curricular 
activities and sports practices.  Rushing home to make dinner.  It’s really 
hard sometimes to be of service when you’re doing all these things for 
your family.

I get that because I’ve been there too.  My kids were young at one point 
and I was driving them all over the place.  But there needs to be more 
talk of service and there needs to be more “doing” of service as well, 
you can’t just talk about it, you actually have to do it and experience it.  
There’s something that you really get when you serve somebody and 
it’s not even something that somebody can explain to you how that 
feeling is when you give service.  

I want to give you one small example of service from my Grandmother, 
this is what I witnessed growing up that she did.  She was the greatest 
example of someone giving unconditional service and unconditional 
love, and kindness and caring.  

When I was little, my Grandmother used to take one of her cousin to 
work and he worked at the University Of Hawaii, and I live here in Hawaii.  
She lived only about 10 to 15 minutes away from the University and he 
worked there in the maintenance department and he wasn’t able to drive.  
He lived with his siblings and parents, which was only a few minutes away 
from my Grandmother, so she would go every night - because he worked 
in the evenings and pick him up, take him to the University so that he could 
go to work and then she would go and pick him up from work and take him
home.

I was blessed and lucky enough that I used to go with her a lot when she 
used to pick him up and drop him off to work, I was a really little girl - I don’t 
even remember how old I was when I used to go with her.  I know I was 
in early elementary and maybe even younger, so you’re talking a long time
ago(that’s beside the point!).  I always remember sitting beside her in the 
car and it was always fun to be with my Grandmother anyway and I still 
think about that till this day.

I don’t remember how many years she did that. She is no longer here 
and she passed away about 11 years ago.  She was my greatest example 
of just doing things that would help somebody, something so small and in 
her eyes it was no big deal, but I’ve witnessed what a great impact it had 
on her cousin and his family because his family members didn’t drive either.

I’m just in awe of someone giving up that much time, now I don’t know-how
many days of the week she did that or any of that, I didn’t keep track and 
I know that she did that for many, many years.

But I still think to myself about how amazing that was, where she never 
complained, she just did it because she knew he couldn’t drive and I knew
there were times when he caught the bus as well.   There were many, many 
times and years that she picked him up.  

The kind of service that I’m talking about can be something like that if you 
do have the time and you do have the resources to go and do that.  But 
service doesn’t have to be that big, it doesn’t have to be where you pick 
somebody up all the time and take them somewhere, it could be taking a 
meal to the if you know they’re sick or not feeling good or if somebody 
just had a baby you could go and take a meal and just be of service - it’s 
amazing, the feeling that you’ll get.  

Because I’ve had this great example all my life from my Grandmother, I’ve
done those things myself just naturally without even thinking about it, and 
I’m so grateful that I had that example because I don’t think I would be doing 
or have done any of the things I’ve done to give of myself and to give service 
to people that need it.  Sometimes we think that we don’t have time and it’s 
such a hassle, but if you actually make your first attempt if you’ve never, 
ever given service to anyone, I would definitely encourage you to try it at least 
one time.

If you know somebody that needs a meal, if they’re having a rough time 
going through some kind of really stressful event that happened in their 
life or a death in the family - go and take them a meal, just drop it off and 
let them know that you’re thinking about them.

It’s just so amazing and like I said earlier, I was a recipient of people doing 
service for me as well, like when I’ve had my children I had many wonderful 
friends bring meals for me and my family when I got out of the hospital and 
just little things like that and another friend who offered to take my other 
children to school because I had just gotten home from the hospital after 
having another baby.

It really makes you feel like everything is going to be O.K. because sometimes 
you go through life and you just wonder… are you doing to make it?  You 
have times where you feel like… I just feel like doing this anymore!  Or you’re 
frustrated and you have no idea how you’re going to get over that frustration.  
Life is hard sometime, sometimes it can be harder than others and so you’ll 
never know what kind of difference you’ll make in somebody’s life.

I’ve actually had people tell me so many times - “thank you so much what 
you did it really made my day, I just was having a hard day.”  I’ve done so 
many things over the years and people have thanked me before and I didn’t 
really keep track of those thank you’s because it just makes me feel good, 
so it’s not something that I needed to write down.

But those things and those feelings and gratitude from other people never 
leave you, it just makes you feel really good and it makes you actually want 
to give more service as often as possible.  This is something that I think we 
need more of and I think it’s something that we need to do more often and 
the reason that I say that is that we’re so caught up in our own lives, and it’s 
really difficult to think about other people when we’re stressed out and some-
times we think that if we have an idea of doing something nice for somebody, 
sometimes you’ll have a thought “oh, they don’t need it they’re fine”, “they’re 
tough” or “they’re a really strong family” or “that person’s really strong they’ll 
survive”.

We have thoughts in our head that we think that when we have that little 
thought come into our mind about “oh, maybe I should ask them to see if 
they need anything”.

Sometime the automatic response and thought that you would have is “oh, 
they probably wouldn’t want anything from me anyway”, you might even 
have thoughts of like “well, why would they even want anything from me?”  
We always think that so many other people are better than we are and
they don’t need anything from us or they have more money than we do so 
they can buy whatever they need, but that’s not always the case. Even 
people that do have more money than you, still need service and love 
and compassion from others because money doesn’t buy happiness - 
money just gives you more options.  Money gives you more opportunities
and things like that, but the true source of happiness really comes from 
service and giving and sometimes I think we need to give more than we 
take.  

I’m talking from experience, I’ve had moments years and years ago where 
I don’t think I was serving very much - I was trying to take as much as possible 
from others, not in a bad way but because I had things going on or life was 
stressful at the time.  So now I feel like I want to make up for all of that taking 
that I did, but sometimes we do need to take but we need to view it as receiving 
verses taking because when you receive, it’s a very different emotion and thought
and a way of living versus just taking.  Taking, is all about just what’s in it for you, 
but receiving is allowing the other person to feel good as well as - me feeling good 
for the gift that somebody else is giving me and in the gift of service.

So, think about that for awhile.  I really hope that you have a desire to serve, and 
like I said if you’ve never served or done anything like that - I really encourage you 
to try it at least once.

I would really love for you to tell me what kind of service you’ve done and any of 
you that are listening, I would love for you to share with me some of the things 
that you’ve done as a service or some of the things that you’ve received when 
someone has given service to you.  It doesn’t have to be anything major, some-
times we think our stories are not significant, but you’ll be amazed at how significant 
they really are.  

I would love for you to connect with me at janin@fashionablefinance.com and 
even if you have a comment too, I would love your comments and if you have 
anything else that you would like me to talk about and create another episode, 
I would love for you to share that with me.

Please share this podcast too with other people that you know who you think 
would be able to benefit from the things that I’m sharing.  All the things that 
I share is always the things that I’ve learned and gone through in my life and 
learned by experience and so please share this message with other people, 
you’ll be amazed at how it could really help someone when you didn’t think 
it could.  So let them know where they can listen to this recording, they can 
go to iTunes and they can search for Fashionable Finance or they can go to 
my website at fashionablefinance.com and it’s right there on my website, you 
can listen to it as well over there.

I would appreciate it if you would go to iTunes and give me an honest rating 
and an honest review, I would really appreciate that and it lets me know what 
you folks are liking and not liking and what you think is of value.  I only want 
to share value, I don’t want to share anything that’s not worth your time.  

I want to sum it up by saying that service is one of the greatest things that 
you could ever do in your life and I know that for sure because I’ve witnessed 
it and I’ve done it myself and I’ve been the recipient of service as well.   I know 
the countless number of other people who have been the recipient as well 
and they’ve shared with me the blessings and relief that it’s brought to them.

Get creative and think about what is one neat thing that you could do for some-
body and it doesn’t have to be a meal, it doesn’t have to be anything extravagant - 
you can even pick up the phone if haven’t talked to somebody in a really long time, 
let them know that you were thinking about them and how they’re doing and just 
wanting to know if everything is O.K. It could be something as simple as writing a 
card to let them know that you’re thinking about them if you don’t want to call.

There’s so many ways that you could give of service and even though writing a 
card and calling somebody on the phone may not seem like a service but… it is! 
 Trust me, I’ve heard from many people who have felt like it was such a great service 
to them.

Brainstorm on paper, remember I always say “write everything down, get everything
out of your head and on to paper”  Just jot down a few ideas that you might have 
on what kind of service that you could offer to someone.  It will make you feel good 
and it will help you sleep really good at night.

I thank you so much, I really appreciate you being here and listening to this episode
and listening to me, I want to send out some wonderful Hawaiian sunshine to all of 
you listening out there and I appreciate any new listeners that we have. 

I want to thank you.

a hui hou malama pono - until next time, take care

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Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production

Women usually have a plan for something that they 
really want and sometimes they don't even realize 
that they've made a plan because it's been something 
that they do naturally and have been doing it for so long,
that they don't feel the need to have it written out.

Sometimes I think that as little girls we have this natural
ability to see what we want, figure out a way to get it
(a plan) and then go for it - no matter what.

Have you ever watched a little girl playing house, having
a tea party or doll dress up?  If you have, you probably
have witnessed that little girl in action: setting things up,
organizing everything and telling her playmates what to do
and, what not to do (some might call it being bossy).  I think it's pretty funny, her playmates are at her mercy.

Isn't that how it is as grown women, we continue that
same pattern just like when we were little.  The only difference
is that we have a lot more people that are in our life to organize (boss around).

Even though that might come easy and written plans are
not required, sometimes having a plan for something 
specific and more elaborate requires that it be written 
out on paper in order for it to be accomplished.

For example, these are some things that require you to have
a written plan. 

*Managing your finances

*Going to college - how much is it going to cost?

*Where you're going to live - how much can you afford to
  pay per month for rent or mortgage?

*Getting married

*Buying a car through financing

*Traveling - taking a trip to Italy

*Growing your spirituality

*Taking care of your health (yes, you need a plan for that!)

The list can be endless, everyone is so different in what they
want and how they want to live their life.

I want to say to all of you women out there, start making plans for your life that will get you excited.  Be a woman with a plan!

There's something amazing that happens when you actually write out or draw out what you want on paper.  
It's so different than keeping it all in your head or doing
it digitally.

I've witnessed some amazing things as I've taught students

how to get their ideas out of their head, how to use their imagination and creativity in all different ways, and all of
it was done with physical objects, not a computer.

My former students have experienced a great deal of satisfaction, amazement within themselves, a sense of accomplishment, and the confidence that they can do
things that may seem hard.

I have a fun suggestion - get some colored pens, pencils, paints
of some kind, crayons, oil pastels, or anything else that is colorful of your choice, and just start writing or drawing a plan for what
you want. You can choose whatever kind of paper you want.

This is your plan and you can create it any way you want!

Colors have a way of activating the imagination and creativity.  

Who says that a plan has to be on a plain sheet of paper, written with a black ink pen?

You're more likely to have success with your plan when it's on
paper versus it being stuck in your head.

Plan! (with colors) You will be happy that you did.  

If you need help with planning or creating a plan for something you have in your heart, let me know.  I will
be more than happy to help you.

I've witnessed some amazing things as I've taught students
how to get their ideas out of their head, how to use their imagination
and creativity in all different ways and all of it was done with
physical objects, not a computer.

My former students have experienced a great deal of satisfaction,
amazement within themselves, a sense of accomplishment and
the confidence that they can do things that may seem hard.

I have a fun suggestion - get some colored pens, pencils,
paints of some kind, crayons, oil pastels, or anything else that is
colorful of your choice, and just start writing or drawing a plan for
what you want. You can choose whatever kind of paper you want.
This is your plan and you can create it any way you want!

Colors have a way of activating the imagination and creativity.
Who says that a plan has to be on a plain sheet of paper, written
with a black ink pen?

You're more likely to have success with your plan when it's on paper versus it being stuck in your head.
Plan! (with colors) You will be happy that you did.

If you need help with planning or creating a plan for something you
have in your heart, let me know. I will be more than happy to help
you.

Please share this podcast with a friend or family member who you
think would get some value out of listening to the different episodes.
I really appreciate it, mahalo for doing that.

a huihou malama pono, which means - until next time, take care

I would love your feedback, send me your comments or questions.

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

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Aloha, Janin 

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production

I  share with you the10 questions you need to include in the conversation you have with yourself everyday.

The person we have a conversation with the most every single day is ourselves.

You may not have even realized it until now, but if you just take a moment to think about all the things that you think about every day of your life, you’ll come to realize that most of it were talking to yourself, also known as: conversations with yourself.

It’s pretty amazing when you think about it, that we have these conversations all day long and I wonder how in the world can we do that when we have so many things going on.

These conversations actually do one of two things: they either help us or hurt us.  And this is what I mean, it so easy for us to say negative things to ourselves when we feel like we’re not smart enough or when we compare ourselves to other people and much more.  By doing that and saying these negative things to ourselves, it really has such a hurtful effect on your mind, body and spirit.  

Now when on an occasion or two we say good things to ourselves, then it helps our happy hormones to feel good and leads us to feel happiness and joy.  That also makes our mind, body, and spirt happy too, and we want to feel happiness and joy right?

I would love for you to start having great conversations with yourself as soon as possible.  You’re definitely worth it and I hope that you know know that you’re worth it. 

I have a list of 10 questions that I put together for you to use everyday.

Start each day by reviewing all of these questions so that it can eventually become cemented in your mind, which will lead to you automatically asking yourself these questions on a daily basis.  
It’s a pretty neat thing to have that happen.

Many years ago I started to ask myself these questions and many more all the time.  It’s amazing what you start to realize when you do this every day.

These are the questions: 

 1.  How can I make it important to consider and honor my own needs? 

 2.  What is it going to take for me to start speaking the truth to myself, because truth is powerful?

 3.  How am I going to know of my self-worth which is priceless?

 4.  How can I let go of any fear that I have?

 5.  Do I have things that I doubt?  And if I do how do I let it go of that doubt?

 6.  How do I let go of any shame that I feel? 

 7.  What value do I bring to my life and to those that are in my life?

 8.  What is it going to take for me to feel joy every day?

 9.  Do I know that creativity is something that is already inside    
of me, not outside of me?

10. What do I need to do to be the creator of my success?

Now, you don’t have to ask yourself these questions in the order that I have them listed because it’s not the order in which you ask these questions, but it’s the nature of the questions themselves.

These are really powerful questions and to be asking yourself
about these

things will have such a powerful effect on you and your life.  I can promise you that.  I have done it myself for years and I can tell you that it has had such a great and powerful impact on me and how I live my life.  I know that I have become a much better person in how I do things, the way I live my life, and much more.  I’m not saying that I have it all figured out or I’m perfect because I don’t have it all figured out and I know I’m far from perfect.

I just feel better mentally, emotionally, and spiritually and I would love for you to feel all of that too.

Like I always say, write things down, get it out of your head and on to paper.

Writing things down has power.  It’s amazing what happens when you actually read your own writing.  As much as possible I recommend writing things down on paper with a writing instrument of some kind instead of typing it out on your phone or computer.

I invite you to try this out for 7 days and see how you feel after just
a week of asking yourself these powerful questions.  You will be glad you did.

Please send me an email at aloha@janinjohnston.com and let me know if you’ve tried this exercise and how it worked for you.  I
would really love to hear from you.  I welcome any questions that you might have as well.

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a huihou malama pono, which means - until next time, take care

Have you ever had a time in your life where things were so
stressful and there was a lot going on?  Are you going through
it now?

Because life throws curve balls at you and you may not be
prepared or feel like you’re ready to take on those curve
balls, that you just feel like screaming or maybe even crying!

Curveballs a.k.a.: a flat tire or a car accident on the freeway
and now you’re going to be 30 minutes late to work or an
appointment, or as soon as you get to work you get a phone
call from your child’s school that he or she is feeling sick and
you need to pick him or her up as soon as possible, or you

get home from work and somebody in your family reminds you
that you signed up to bring snacks to a school or committee
meeting that night, or how about all of these things happening
in one day!

At this point you’re thinking no way…this cannot be happening!
And you start to wonder if you can make it through the rest of
the day.

This is just an example of a few of the many endless things
that have happened to me and many other people that I know.

I’m sure you can relate as you are reading this.

With life being so busy and moving fast, sometimes the only
thing you can do it make it through the day and not worry about
tomorrow or the future.

I want to let you know that you’re not alone, life likes to keep you
on your toes which at times can seem relentless.  It seems like the
light at the end of the tunnel is not even in your view or you don’t
even have the energy to dream of the light.

When these things are happening, have you ever had the thought
of “I just want to get on an airplane and fly off somewhere where
nobody can find me”.  Well, I have had that thought many, many
times.  Although it’s never happened…I’ve never gotten on an
airplane and flew off to somewhere far away when life was
throwing me curveballs.

It’s a great thought though, don’t you think?

Sometimes the frustration level is so high that you just feel like
you just can’t deal with all the stress that’s happening in one day.

Well, looking back at those times of dealing with the curveballs
I realize that on quite a few occasions, it was because of my
lack of planning and preparation.  Of course, I’m talking about things that I had control over, like having the snack ready ahead
of time and things like that.  Obviously, I have no control over a
flat tire, a car accident on the freeway or my child getting sick at school.

But I do have control over other little things that I can put in place
and prepare for.

Hindsight is always great because it means that you are willing
to see and learn from all the things that didn’t work in the past.
It’s also really important to realize that you can’t change the past.
It’s really easy to blame everyone and everything else instead of
just accepting what happened and realize that sometimes there’s
nothing that you can do or could have done in certain situations.

Women, in general, are so hard on themselves when things happen
and go in a direction that created pain or stress, that they start
saying things to themselves that are very emotionally, mentally, and
spiritually harmful.

There is nothing that is worth that kind of pain to your emotions, your mind, or your spirit.

It really is OK to want to just make it through the day and nothing
more.  Just remember to breathe…

If and when you have curveballs coming at you, just remember that
you are only going to be better for having gone through it.

Here are 4 things I suggest that you do:

1.  Set a specific day and time each week to go over your life and
what is going on during the coming week.

2.  Jot down on a paper calendar or your digital calendar, as many
notes as possible about what’s happening on each day and what
you need to do for each thing.

3.  Let everyone know that is involved in your activities.

4.  Look at your calendar multiple times a day.  You’ll be amazed
at how easy it is to forget what you put in the calendar.

It may sound a little too simple, but it really is powerful in helping
you deal with any curveballs.

Just trying to make it through the day is better than just giving up and throwing in the towel and not dealing with the curveballs in a positive way.

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

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Aloha, Janin 

a hui hou malama pono, which means - until next time, take care

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production

NEVER EVER go to the store without a shopping list of some kind,
whether it's written on paper or on your phone, and try to limit the
number of times you go to the store.  Here's why...

1.    As soon as you walk in the door you forget what you
needed to get in the first place.

2.    There's a whole marketing psychology on shoppers
that the stores use to make everything you see very
appealing and makes you want to buy it.
(I know because I used to work in retail)

So.... that leads me to the 3rd reason...

3.    You don't buy what you actually came to the store for.

4.    You end up buying things that you don't really need.

5.    You spend way more money than you can afford.  And,
a lot of times using credit to make the purchase!

Everything listed above is from experience.  So a few years ago what I decided to do was to make sure that before I went to any store that I would write down on a piece of paper the exact thing
or things that I needed.  I still do that to this day.  I make sure that
I write my list with a bright-colored pen making the words a little larger than usual - it's as if the bright words are reminding me of what I really need.

Now, I'm not perfect.  I have moments that I just feel like I don't want to write
a list and I go… and I shop … and I buy things that I don't really need.  But, I learn very quickly that I should have made a list!

If this happens to you, don't worry the main thing is that you
get back to doing the things that work, like writing a shopping
list on paper or in your phone - whichever works best for you.

Try it out this weekend and see what happens.  Better yet,
try it out for 7 days.

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Mahalo for listening.
Aloha, Janin 

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production

Aloha, in this episode I talk about shame.

I referenced episode #011 on Fear and episode #012 on Doubt.   

Fear, Doubt, and Shame are the three main things that women 

suffer from.

Shame is a painful emotion that we need to talk about, woman 

want to just hide it under the rug, but I don’t want that for you.  

We need to figure out how to get rid of these feelings that are 

not serving us.

There’s no room in our lives for fear, doubt, and shame.

Growing up, have you ever had an adult say to you “shame on you”?  If you did, said, or behaved in a certain way?

We don’t think about how it’s going to affect our kids when we say those things to them.

Everything that goes on in our lives shapes who we are and who we become

and the feelings we have.  We take things on.

We need to work on letting go:

First - acknowledge that you have shame within yourself.

Shame will look different for everyone - some people have shame about how they look, shame of being in public, or speaking up, there are so many because we are all so different.

You can quiet down those feelings and let it go by understanding how it affects you in your daily life, being ashamed about so many things prevents you from achieving the things that you want or prevents you from moving forward on things.

The only way to accomplish things is to get out of our comfort zone and do the things that are scary and do the things that you feel are shameful even though they may not be.

I will always tell you to write things down on paper, writing with a physical instrument will make a big difference.  Write everything down that you can remember about the shame that you’re feeling when it started, why you think you have this kind of shame 
even though it might be scary, but in the end, you’ll be glad you did.

Get it out of your head so that you can work on letting it go.

This will help you move forward in the right direction.  Holding on to the shame that you have inside of you is not helping you at all.

Denial is also a really big enemy.

We have to have the good and the bad in our life, there’s no way that everything can always be good.  We have to have the bad so that we can appreciate the good -

opposition helps us to grow and overcome those things, that’s how God intended life to be.

Don’t be hard on yourself and get yourself down, it is possible to overcome all of these things.  It may take a little time because you’ve probably had these feelings for a really long time.  It’s amazing how long someone can hold on to feelings of fear, doubt, and shame.

Change is really hard and can be scary, but the more you experience change - you start to realize that “hey it’s not so bad after all”.

Letting go could mean the unknown, what’s on the other end. If we let go of something,

you'll feel much better and feel different.

Letting go will feel much better than holding on to the shame and other feelings that are negative that aren’t helping you.

Sometimes it's better to get some help with understanding and figuring out these things, so if you would like my help you can email me at aloha@janinjohnston.com  we can see if there’s any way that we can work together.  I’m here to support and guide you in a way that would be best for you.

If you know anyone who is suffering from shame, then have them listen to this podcast and share with them what you’re learning, it’s always good to help other people.

Women love to talk with other women and discuss the problems of their day, so how about you talk with each other about this subject of SHAME.

It always feels good when you help somebody that you care about, so I encourage you to share this podcast with the people that you know.

Shame affects our lives by making us feel like we're not good enough, shame has so many different faces.  If you don’t feel like you’re good enough to do very many

things, then you just go through life living the same-old, same-old not wanting to stretch yourself or to make improvements or to work towards a dream or goal that you have.

You are worth your dreams and it's worth going towards your
goals, we all have dreams and goals.

We let life get in the way because we aren’t paying attention to those things that are really important and shame seems to get in our way.

It pops up and gets in our face and makes you feel like you can’t
do it or you’re not worth it.

If you’re feeling uncomfortable, it’s OK, the feeling should pass, it won’t stay with you forever.  Feel those feelings because if you try to ignore it that's when shame pops up in your face, and you’re not going to know what it is or how to deal with it.  

It’s so important to know how to recognize it.

You’re worth it, you’re worth the time it takes to get out of the denial and face your shame and admit that you have it so you
can overcome it.

Good and bad words have power whether we realize it or not, everything you hear and say affects you emotionally, mentally, spiritually.  So if you ever hear someone that you know say
“shame on you” please encourage them to not say that. 

If you can learn to speak up and start to recognize these things
and be vocal about it will be so much more powerful in helping move you forward in overcoming this shame.

Fear, doubt, and shame hold you and keeps you down and makes you crazy because you just don’t understand why it’s there or why doesn’t it just go away.

I hope you are enjoying listening to this podcast!

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Mahalo for listening. A hui hou malama pono (take care,
until we meet again) 

Aloha, Janin 

Music by: Dennis Pavao
Song: Ipo Lei Manu
Album: Wale No
Produced by: Pilialoha Production
Permission was given to use the music from this
artist.

I think a lot about all of you listeners every day and what I can share with you, and to share the things that I’ve learned and the experiences that I had.   I want to talk about Doubt-It Doesn’t Have To Be!  
I have met so many people who suffer from doubt, we have so much that we doubt in our daily lives.

I wanted to see the dictionary’s definition of ‘doubt’ and it says:
to be uncertain about, to consider questionable or unlikely, hesitate to believe, to distrust, to fear, to be apprehensive about, to be uncertain about something to be undecided in opinion or belief.

How many of you have a lot of doubt within you? Fear and doubt have a strong connection.

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone and they say to you “I doubt it” without even doing the research and finding out if something is true or not?

Have you ever questioned your doubt?

You should always doubt the doubt before we just accept it.

Women suffer from Fear, Doubt and Shame.

What do you doubt in your life?  Doubt comes from different places just like fear.

Doubt really stops us from achieving a lot of things and has us feeling like we can’t move forward.  It also prevents us from feeling joy and creating.

Writing everything down on paper about your doubt is a great way to figure out what is it that you’ve been doubting all these years.  Write down whatever’s going on in your life.  Write down if it’s a person that your doubting, is it a place your at right now or is it a thing in your life that you’re doubting.  Take the time to figure out what your doubts are.

We have to have trials and struggles in life, that’s how we can learn and grow and to gain knowledge to be able to overcome our weaknesses, that’s how God created life to be. 

There is a doubt that you have that is preventing you from overcoming a lot of things or achieving your goals.

Question the doubts.

Everyone I know has conversations in their mind, so why not have a conversation with yourself about figuring out what your doubts are and how to overcome them.  Work it out in your mind.  

We all have strengths and weaknesses.

If you need help with figuring out what you’re having doubts about, I will be happy to help you, send me an email at aloha@janinjohnston.com.

Doubt is a big killer of joy and creativity.  Creativity is not limited to drawing and painting, everything we do every day is creative and we're always creating.

I love people, I think people are really fascinating and we all need each other.  There’s so much we as women have to offer so many people, that’s why we need to let go of the doubt.

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Aloha and Mahalo for listening!

Aloha, in this episode I talk about the dreaded topic of

FEAR!

Fear is everywhere, it so pervasive.

Fear shows its ugly self in so many different ways and starts in childhood at such a tender age.

Everything we learn for the first few years of our lives is from our parents, grandparent, or aunts & uncles that raise us and it will look different for everyone.

We're here to gain knowledge, to grow and learn and to experience things, and to prepare to live in the eternities with God.

One of the steps you need to take to overcome your fear is to be creative.  Being creative allows you to be in that space of “what’s possible” because being in that space of fear shuts you down.

Everyone on this planet is given that gift of creativity from God.

It’s amazing how creative we are, it's possible to be creative every day and have joy, you just have to want these things.

Everybody has their own interest in the creative space, so take the time to find that creative gift that’s in you.  Once you get on that path, you will be amazed at yourself.

It’s good to have somebody to work out your fears with and go step by step to figure out what’s going on, maybe the other person you’re working with will have an idea of how you can overcome your fear.  You don’t know what you don’t know.

It’s not worth it to give in to that fear, why would you want to give into something that is having such a negative effect on your life.

I want to encourage you with every fiber of my being to take these steps to overcome fear, we all have so much to give, and there's so much that we can enjoy here in this lifetime.

Life doesn’t have to be terrible or fearful, it is possible to let it go.

Your life is so worth it!

I want to encourage you to face it, overcome it, and let it go.  It may take a little time because things worthwhile are worth doing.

I would love to talk with you and help you figure out how to overcome your fear.  

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